Theraputic Apathy

Posted 2009.04.24 10.36 in Life On Drugs, Pointless Blather by Stephanie

In his book Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen Covey wrote that those highly effective people learn not to worry about things they can’t affect. That is, you have spheres of influence, and if a situation is outside your spheres of influence, then worrying about it is a waste of your time and energy: focus on stuff you can affect or influence, and let the rest sort itself out.

Worrying about things which are out of your control will just increase your stress and add to the grey hairs. The real problem of course is, it’s easy to say Oh you can’t control it so don’t worry about it, but when ‘it’ is something or someone you care about, it becomes difficult to stop worrying. Indeed, I think we’re probably biologically programmed to care and want to help people – if you’re in a tribal hunter-gatherer society surrounded by lots of dangerous Nature, everyone you know and see is family or extended family or friend, and if they’re in trouble it’s in everyone’s best interest to help them.

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