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Blessed Samhain

Posted 2014.10.31 9.29 in Family/Friends, Spiritual by Stephanie

Wishing a blessed Samhain to everyone.

Tonight draws an end to the light half of the year, and begins the dark half; the veil between this world and the next will be at its thinnest. A time to think of our loved ones, and of those who have passed beyond.

Take care & blessed be.

Samhain_Pentacle

Missed It

Posted 2014.10.07 20.23 in Family/Friends by Stephanie

Yesterday was the 6th of October, and I sort of missed it. It came and went and I didn’t really pay it any attention.

It was a fairly typical Monday, I had typical Monday things to do, and a small deadline that held my attention for most of the afternoon and early evening.

When the 6th of September came along, I was acutely aware of it. I knew it was the 6th. I knew the 6th was coming. The 6th of August started ok but then snuck up and caught me unawares, an emotional sneak attack.

This thing with the 6th started in July of course. The 6th of July was a terrible day, the culmination of a week and a half of terrible days.

Anyways, so yesterday marked 3 months. A quarter of a year. And it didn’t clue in, nothing really came up.

I guess this is that thing where time heals and all that stuff.

Hugh on the Trumpet

Posted 2014.08.25 16.59 in Family/Friends by Stephanie

Here’s a brief clip of my dad Hugh playing his trumpet to one of the arrangements he wrote. The other parts are being played by the computer.

4k TV

Posted 2014.08.06 21.04 in Family/Friends by Stephanie

It’s been one month since my dad died.

I’ve been pretty much ok since then. Had a huge loud ugly cry a few hours after he died, then just got on with stuff.

Sure there’s been tears now and then. Reminiscing about him with my mum, for example. Going through some photographs. That sort of thing.

Then today I saw a blurb on the tv, the news channel doing some bit on the new 4k televisions that are going to make HDTV obsolete.

And that set me off.

My dad loved big tv. He had a crazy-huge tv, like 70 or 80 inches or something. He had mentioned 4k tv now and then, he was excited to see it when the price got down a bit.

And the realization that he missed it, he won’t get to see it, just made me hugely sad. Crazy little thing.

I hope wherever he is now, he’s got his 4k tv. And there’s no commercials on any of his channels.

This Concludes Our Broadcasting Day

A Long Goodbye

Posted 2014.07.08 20.41 in Family/Friends by Stephanie

My dad wrote his own obituary, and it is as beautiful as it is long.

Hi Everyone,

I’ve been reading everyone else’s for years, and I’ve always liked those best that were written by the deceased themselves. So here’s mine.

Hugh_MaksylewichAfter being a burden on the health care system for almost five years, I finally packed it in on July 6th, 2014.

What a great life I have had. I’ve had so many successes, it is going to sound like bragging.

First of all, I was the luckiest guy ever when I met and married Joan Clark. What a fantastic wife, friend, and supporter she has been. And thanks to B.A. and Ron for arranging that Joan and I should meet.

We chose two wonderful babies who grew up to be great fiends; our daughters Stephanie and Leanne. And then there are the grands: Mackenzie, Jackson, and Riley, Leanne’s great kids.

It took a while, but I finally realized that the next most important thing in life after family is the wonderful friends you make over the years.

When I married Joan, I also acquired a place in her family. A lot of people make jokes about their in-laws. I don’t. They’ve always been great to Joan and I. Her sister Marilyn and brother-in-law Rod Shantz have always been better friends than relatives. And their extended family; Mark and Anne and their daughter Abbey, Tracey and her husband Eric and their four fantastic kids, Daniel, Robert, Matthew, and Emily.

I left my parents and sister Sonia back in B.C. when I came to Toronto in 1959. And while we lived apart, they were there for me when I needed help or support. One of my proudest moments was when I was able to  help arrange a surprise 65th wedding anniversary for my parents, Peter and Cay Maksylewich in Penticton, B.C. where they lived.

It truly amazes me the number of people I’ve gotten to know through Joan, my musical career, my various jobs, and of course those I met through my adventures as a small business owner in the now defunct business forms industry. What a rush!

Through the ups and downs of business start-up, loss, and re-start-up, active participation in our trade association, the wonderful and interesting people and places we enjoyed is a major highlight.

So many new friends, so many wonderful trips culminating in a unique award given to me in 1989: I am the only Canadian ever awarded the Member Of The Year trophy by my peers in our trade association. Am I bragging? A little perhaps, but I know you will cut me some slack.

Finally, I would like to recognize the last five years living in what for me was the greatest community ever.

Unless one has actually lived here, it is hard to believe that so many kind, giving, and wonderful people could live in such close proximity.

I will never forget my 75th birthday party in the community rec centre, when 85 people attended to wish me a happy birthday. Sending the thank-you cards, I was overwhelmed to realize that 55 of those were neighbourhood friends. What a community! There are too many to list in this verbose epistle, but you know who you are, and I thank you so much.

Wow, this is long! But you know that I was never one to be short on speaking, until recently!

So, good bye to you all, friends, family, and acquaintances.

Who knows what the future brings, but hopefully you and I will meet again.

Dad

Posted 2014.07.06 6.51 in Family/Friends by Stephanie

Dad

August 1938 – July 2014

PSA FB T-Shirt

Posted 2012.10.15 9.52 in Family/Friends by Stephanie

I recently attended a get-together where I met a number of new people for the first time (or at least I assume it was the first time) and while it was overall an interesting and enjoyable evening, there was also a nagging fear about next time.

Next time, at the next get-together, when they’ll expect me to recognize them all.

Sooner or later I’ll have to explain about face-blindness to them, and trying to figure out how best to handle that, I got the idea to just put it on a t-shirt. Something that would catch their attention and perhaps get them to ask some questions.

I figure that might help break the ice and make it easier to bring up the subject. FaceBlind.org is the URL for some of the official researchers who have been studying Prosopagnosia, and it’s easy to read, pronounce and remember.